"A bell's not a bell 'til you ring it, A song's not a song 'til you sing it, Love in your heart wasn't put there to stay, Love isn't love 'til you give it away!"
-Oscar Hammerstein III
but of course it wasn't anything disastrous and I survived. Then right after I left Wal-Mart, I got invited to my old high school's band Christmas Concert and I surprised myself by actually going not only into civilization but by going into the hearth of what made me miserable and again I was surprised that nothing bad happened but instead I was bombarded by tons of people who claimed to miss me. Funny stuff, huh?
All people aside and all small adventures in my hometown, there's something I've kind of involved myself into and a decision I have made. And it all starts... with a ring.
It’s safe to say that there can be many things to seal deals. Words can determine a break-up or make-up. Gifts can result is delight or disaster and in the most common way, a ring can be the biggest factor in everything.
I’m writing about two rings today: both promise rings but each one important in their own respective sense.
The first is one who’s original owner is a Mr. Sergio : (AKA Mark’s boyfriend) He has a what looks to be either a titanium or platinum band with a single diamond in the ring. This ring was originally purchased with the intent of signifying promise to wait for the right person to date and not settle for less. The ring now rests on Mark’s finger. While I am absolutely thrilled for both of them, this ring not only now represents the promise and potential to what looks to be a loving and beautiful relationship but it also symbolizes the bond of two people- not three.
Mark is happy and I figure it’s time I stop being a tagalong so I’ve decided to stop calling and being around all the time. So my third wheel days are done and while I love Mark dearly for the second family he is to me, he could use some space so I will miss our weekly glee sessions and our spending every free moment together. He’s a taken man and he can’t devote his every moment to me. I’ll always be open to hang out… I’ll just provide the space he so lovingly needs.
Which brings me to the second ring in question.
The second ring is a white gold band, topped with a cubic zirconium stone held on by the white gold in a heart shaped encasing. It’s a size 6 and the owner is one Miss Jenner (AKA Me). I’ve decided to make the act of being single a more permanent establishment by splurging (white gold is a bit pricey but I can live with cubic zirconium) on a promise ring for myself as a Christmas present. It’s not a chastity promise ring (since I’ve made that decision on my own minus the jewelry) but a relationship promise ring. If I’m going to be single for a while, I may as well have a reminder of how much I’m worth and how I should live each day to its potential. I’m guessing I’m going to be single for at least 3 more years and when the time comes and I do get into a relationship, it should at least be worthwhile.
The ring should be arriving soon. (I blame my fixation on Etsy, the arts and crafts online market where I purchased most of my Christmas presents for this gift to myself)
Either way, there’s love all around and promise for all. And that just might be the one thing to hope for.
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Jen, Im so happy to have been able to give you something like the idea of this ring, especially after taking Mark away from you. Know that he is a taken man but ill never come between you and him. I wore that ring for a long time and each day was just as you said a reminder of how special i was. Never settle for less Jen because you deserve so much! I cant wait to see your hometown! AHHH! Excited! I know I can speak on behalf of me and Mark when I say, WE MISS YOU!!
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